{"id":2283,"date":"2018-06-19T10:27:10","date_gmt":"2018-06-19T14:27:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/how-to-help-a-friend-deal-with-thoughts-of-suicide\/"},"modified":"2025-07-28T11:03:27","modified_gmt":"2025-07-28T15:03:27","slug":"how-to-help-a-friend-navigate-thoughts-of-suicide","status":"publish","type":"articles","link":"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/how-to-help-a-friend-navigate-thoughts-of-suicide\/","title":{"rendered":"How to help a friend navigate thoughts of suicide"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"lead\">Everyone plays an important role in preventing suicide. If you think someone in your life may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, there are things you can do to support them. It\u2019s also important to recognize your limits and care for your own well-being. Here, Kids Help Phone shares information about warning signs, tips for helping a friend and ways you can care for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you or someone you know is experiencing feelings of hopelessness and\/or suicidal thoughts, it\u2019s important to remember that help is available. You can connect with Kids Help Phone\u2019s&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/our-counsellors\/\"><strong>professional counsellors<\/strong><\/a><strong>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/our-crisis-responders\/\"><strong>volunteer crisis responders<\/strong><\/a><strong>&nbsp;for 24\/7 mental health support. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You can also call or text 9-8-8, a 24\/7 confidential national suicide crisis helpline for support.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<h2    id=\"how-can-i-tell-if-someone-is-having-thoughts-of-suicide\"\n    class=\"acf-block-heading \"\n    >\n    How can I tell if someone is having thoughts of suicide?<\/h2>\n\n\n<p>Thoughts of suicide can be expressed in many different ways and are unique to each person\u2019s experience. While the majority of people who die by suicide show warning signs ahead of time, many people don\u2019t recognize them because of stigma, misinformation and a lack of education around suicide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-some-warning-signs-of-suicide-include\">Some warning signs of suicide include:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A drastic change in mood or behaviour<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A sudden change in someone\u2019s mood or behaviour may be an indicator that something isn\u2019t right. This can present in a number of ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>telling jokes about taking their own life<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>changing their usual routine significantly<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>acting withdrawn or making excuses about why they can\u2019t hang out<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>taking more risks<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>isolating from other people<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>giving away possessions<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>engaging in <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/what-substance-use\/\">substance use<\/a> (more or different from their usual habits)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>You may also notice that they seem unusually or especially irritated, angry, desperate, annoyed or don\u2019t seem to care about anything. If a friend or someone you know is behaving in a way that concerns or worries you, there are things you can do to support them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Thoughts and feelings expressing helplessness or hopelessness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A person having thoughts of suicide may genuinely believe that death or dying is the only way to solve difficulties or challenges they\u2019re facing. It\u2019s important to remember that someone who talks about ending their life doesn\u2019t necessarily want to die, but wants to express that they\u2019re struggling with intense pain. Talking about suicide may be one way someone is reaching out for help. You may recognize these thoughts and feelings in phrases like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><em>\u201cNo one cares.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI can\u2019t take it anymore.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cThe world would be better off without me.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cIt\u2019s not worth it.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI\u2019ll be gone soon.\u201d<\/em><em><\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI\u2019m a burden.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cIf I died then I wouldn\u2019t have to deal with this.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI wish I were dead.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI wish I hadn\u2019t been born.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cDying is the only thing that will help.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cThings will never get better.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI can\u2019t do anything.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI have no future.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI can\u2019t take anymore.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>\u201cI just want it all to go away.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Thoughts of suicide look and feel different for everyone<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One of these signs alone (a change in mood or behavior, expressions of hopelessness or helplessness, thoughts that death is the only way to fix something) doesn\u2019t automatically mean that a person will have thoughts of suicide. It\u2019s also possible for someone to experience thoughts of suicide and not have any of these signs. As a supporter and friend, learning about these signs and phrases of concern can help alert you that someone in your life might need additional support.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can learn more about the reasons why a person might <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/suicide-important-things-to-know\/\">develop thoughts of suicide here<\/a>. For more information about spotting warning signs of suicide, check out the video below:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"embed-responsive embed-responsive-16by9\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Spotting Signs of Suicide\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9dKVM0BF-KY?feature=oembed&#038;rel=0&#038;controls=1&#038;showinfo=0&#038;modestbranding=1&#038;color=white&#038;\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<h2    id=\"how-can-i-support-someone-im-worried-about\"\n    class=\"acf-block-heading \"\n    >\n    How can I support someone I\u2019m worried about?<\/h2>\n\n\n<p>It can be difficult to know how to approach someone about suicide. The person you\u2019re worried about may feel embarrassed or confused and not want you to tell anyone else.&nbsp;It\u2019s also possible they\u2019ve reached out to someone before and had a bad experience. There are <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/understanding-why-it-can-be-hard-to-reach-out-for-help\/\">many factors that make it difficult to reach out<\/a> for support. Here are steps you can take to support people in your life:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-show-that-you-care\">Show that you care<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Reach out to the person you\u2019re worried about. Share that you care about their safety and let them know you\u2019re someone they can reach out to for support. You can open up a conversation in a neutral way with these phrases:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u201cYou seem really down lately. Do you want to talk about it?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m worried about you. Can we talk about what\u2019s going on?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cI know it can be hard to talk about your feelings, but if you want to, I\u2019m here for you.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Focus on the whole person and not just their struggles by reminding them of their strengths and positive qualities. Making space for your friend can help to acknowledge their pain, sort out their thoughts, gain perspective and help them feel less alone. You don\u2019t have to solve their problems \u2013\u2013 just listening without judgment can go a long way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-ask-directly\"><strong>Ask directly<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>I<\/strong>t\u2019s OK&nbsp;to ask someone directly if they\u2019re thinking about suicide. Asking about suicide openly and directly lets people know you\u2019re someone who notices things and cares and reduces stigma and shame. Many people who have thoughts of suicide struggle for a long time before opening up and may feel a sense of relief when asked. You can ask directly by saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u201cAre you thinking about suicide?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cAre you having thoughts of death or dying?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cHave you been thinking about killing yourself?\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>When asking, you can also refer to the warning signs listed above to make it clear why you\u2019re bringing it up. For example, you might say, \u201cSometimes when people are joking about death, they\u2019re thinking about suicide. Are you having thoughts of suicide?\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve noticed you\u2019ve been more withdrawn lately. Are you having thoughts of death or dying?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Suicide is very serious and not something that you should keep secret.&nbsp;If your friend admits to having thoughts of suicide, it\u2019s important for them to get support. Offer to go with them to speak to a <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/how-identify-safe-adult\/\">safe adult<\/a> or stay with them while they <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/our-e-mental-health-services\/\">reach out to Kids Help Phone<\/a>. Our professional counsellors and volunteer crisis responders are available 24\/7 to provide support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you think your friend is in immediate danger, call 911, emergency services or mobile crisis support (if available in your area). It\u2019s an emergency if you\u2019re worried that the person may do something to hurt themselves and <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/how-cope-thoughts-suicide\/\">can\u2019t make a plan for their safety<\/a>. It\u2019s important to involve medical and\/or mental health professionals to make sure they get the help they need.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-get-support\"><strong>Get support<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Supporting someone with thoughts of suicide can be difficult, but you don\u2019t have to be alone in the process. As a supporter, it\u2019s important to take care of yourself too, like <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/how-to-map-out-your-community-of-support\/\">connecting with your community<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/self-care-can-be-more-than-bubble-baths-heres-our-guide\/\">practising self-care<\/a>. If you want someone to talk to, you can connect with a counsellor, friend, teacher, parent\/caregiver, Elder or <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/our-e-mental-health-services\/\">reach out to Kids Help Phone for support<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Losing someone to suicide can be devastating. If someone you know does die by suicide, know that it\u2019s not your fault they died. While it\u2019s natural to experience guilt and confusion, you\u2019re not responsible for another person\u2019s actions. It\u2019s important to <a href=\"https:\/\/kidshelpphone.ca\/get-info\/losing-someone-suicide-how-grieve-and-heal\/\">treat yourself with compassion and be kind to yourself<\/a> as you heal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Supporting a friend with thoughts of suicide can be tough. Remember the warnings signs and care for yourself and your well-being too. You can be proud of yourself for taking the time to learn what to do and support your friend with whatever they may be going through.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everyone plays an important role in preventing suicide. If you think someone in your life may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, there are things you can do to support them. 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